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Ten Ways To Tango With Your Passions

tempo 025If there really were such things as fairy dust and magic lanterns to help make all of your life’s dreams come true, what would you wish for? What urgings deep down inside would command your attention? If there really were no limits, what would you do, where would you go, and who would be there with you? We all wonder, at times, how different life might be if we dared to dream more boldly. And we dream because it is a uniquely a human experience that gives us hope. Although life doesn’t always unfold as planned, priorities change and stuff happens to get in the way of our dreams, we continue to hope that, someday, we will achieve those dreams. And we can be thankful that the twists and turns of life force us, from time to time, to ask ourselves the “what if…” questions and dare us to contemplate new possibilities that eventually take our life in a direction that is more congruent with who we are. Otherwise we may never allow ourselves to do what makes us come alive. Real growth happens in these moments when we pay attention.

So, for a few moments, I invite you to take a deep breath, grab a journal and jump on a magic carpet ride with me. Bring your fairy dust or magic lantern and dare to ask yourself three questions. And I want you to ask these questions from a perspective of no limits… Don’t let all the stuff that’s keeping you “real” get in the way. Silence those negative voices in your head that tell you this is fanciful and unrealistic. Hop on!

1.  What is your passion?

Allow your emotions to get stirred with this question. Passion is the burning “Yes!” that comes from a deep place in your soul; an intense emotion stirring deep in your belly that compels you to take action. Passion is the sweet elixir of life. It begs you to consider who you are, where you’ve been and where you’re going. Following your passion is a process of uncovering your soul's dreams, creating plans to achieve those dreams; boldly embarking on the journey; learning from your challenges; pausing to reflect on what life has taught you and drawing on your inner guidance to achieve your destiny and create an amazing legacy.

2.  What is your purpose?

Purpose brings together all that you have learned and the wisdom you have gained to support the realization of your future potential. It creates the intention and motivation to carry out your most important activities, in spite of challenges. Purpose is the fuel that drives you to succeed, provides clarity along the way and helps you achieve the desired outcomes. When you are living on purpose you are giving the gift of your authentic self to the world and making the greatest contribution you can make.

3.  What are the possibilities?

Possibilities bring inspiration, imagination and creative energies to bear on what your soul is saying you must do. Possibilities are boundless, creative ideas that tap into your inner genius when you allow the creative juices to flow and engage your soul to help you develop the necessary steps to achieve your goals. Generating possibilities with an open mind and without censoring is the best way to create a meaningful and long list of workable ideas. Once you have a good list, you can sort them, dismiss those that are unrealistic and implement the ones that are aligned with your purpose and goals.

So, go ahead and give yourself permission to take a 20-minute break from the daily grind and get on a magic carpet ride.  Allow yourself to dream and generate tons of ideas. Dare yourself to ask these three questions and see where your imagination takes you.  Be sure to capture the ideas. Enjoy the ride!
tangoWhen you think of someone who exudes passion, rx who comes to mind? What is it about that person that has passion written all over it? Is it in the way they act, healing what they say or how they express themselves? Passionate people feel enthusiastic and excited about everything they do. You can see it in the sparkle in their eyes and in the energy in their body. Their energy is infectious and it can’t be faked. Passion is an intense burning desire, see a roaring “Yes!” that comes from a deep place in the soul; an intense emotion stirring in the belly that compels us to take action. Passion is the sweet elixir of life. When we’re passionate about what we do, we are in a zone, in flow and passion makes light of the work we do. When we’re passionate we hear a voice inside that says: “I love what I’m doing, I can’t believe they pay me to do this.” When I think about passion, I see a vibrant red allure surrounding two people dancing a passionate tango like they haven’t a care in the world but being in that moment.

When you find the work that connects directly with your passions, you feel boundless energy, like there are no limits to what you can do and how long you can do it. You feel positive and connected to something much grander than yourself. You focus effortlessly, pay attention for long periods of time and easily call on your creativity to resolve obstacles that get in the way. You may even do what you once believed was impossible. And there are physical benefits to doing what you’re passionate about. You laugh more, have that extra bounce in you step and more energy.  You sleep better, feel happier and trust more easily.  

Passions can be cultivated, even when they have been buried deep inside from years of “busy-ness” and priorities. But you have to make room for your passions to emerge and this can only happen when you create an inviting environment to let your passions flourish.   

  1. It starts with saying “No!” to unimportant things. Clear your calendar of the busy-ness and create a sacred time for yourself.  Go to your favourite place and allow yourself to just be.
  2. Relax, clear your mind, open your heart and listen to the whispers. You can’t hear what your heart is telling you if you’re busy running around, working or connected 24/7.
  3. Embrace the incredible wisdom that is hidden inside you. Invite it to share the messages you are ready to hear.
  4. Ask questions that invite your creativity to soars, questions like “What if…?” or “If time was infinite I would…” or “If money was not important I would…”
  5. Think about your life in broader terms that a job or work. Consider your life from a perspective of work, relationships, health, leisure community and continuous learning.
  6. Visualize a life where you are doing exactly what you want to do, where you want to do it, with the people who can support you, and picture yourself in that life.
  7. Take a look at unfulfilled dreams to see if they provide any clues and ask yourself: What dreams am I ready for?” Keep asking this question every day for a couple of weeks and see what emerges.
  8. Pay attention to the thoughts that occupy your mind as you ponder what’s possible. The most worthy thoughts will keep coming up, again and again, and beg your attention. Write the ideas down so you don’t forget them.
  9. When you have a few nuggets to work with, engage in brainstorming or mind mapping and see what surfaces. You may surprise yourself.
  10. As new ideas begin to surface, pay attention to the coincidences, synchronicity and unexplained chance meetings. Often times, when we are open to new ideas, things start happening or we meet people who can help us move in a new direction.

As the ideas begin to flow, capture them in a journal so you can ponder them, elaborate on them and start connecting them to other ideas until a clearer picture emerges. It may take a few weeks or a few months, but if you keep asking the questions and you remain open to new ideas, they will come and soon you’ll have a clear picture of the passions that have lain dormant inside you for so many years. Embrace your newfound passions and tango to your heart’s desires.

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Dianne Gaudet is a certified Coach who is passionate about helping her clients manage the dynamics of continual life transitions as they reach new heights of personal and professional success. Helping Boomers create rich and inspired lifestyle plans for the retirement life they want is one of her greatest joys. Dianne is the author of a new book, If There Are No Limits... A guide to living with passion, purpose and possibilities. She is also a motivational speaker, teacher and world traveller.