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Week 18 – How to Face Your Fears Head On

Stress is reaching epidemic proportions, cialis but are we paying attention?  It’s true that stress is a part of life. We experience stress related to financial pressures, sick relationship issues, pressure to achieve, workload demands, health issues and not having enough time the day to do everything that needs doing. Statistics Canada found that up to 30% of the population, aged 14-64, is experiencing high levels of stress. Sunlife found that as many as 77% of people have at least one source of stress that is either at an uncomfortable level or excessive.

But when do stress levels become too high? The twelve signs below are indicators that your stress levels may be getting too high and that you may be heading towards a dangerous level of stress that can affect your overall level of wellbeing.  Rate each indicator on the following scale:

1 = No concerns; 2 = Minimal concerned; 3 = Normal levels; 4 = Somewhat concerned; 5 = Very concerned

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Stress Indicator

Rating

(1-5)

1 Your energy is much lower than normal and you have more unexplained aches and pains.
2 You’re not eating well and the guilt is mounting.
3 You’re sleeping more than usual because it’s the only way to unplug.
4 You find yourself withdrawing from social situations and have an increased desire to be alone.
5 You have no energy for your friends and family or for romantic relationships.
6 You feel emotionally spent most of the day.
7 You’re losing your sense of self.  You look in the mirror and ask: Who is this person?
8 You feel disconnected from your community.
9 You have trouble feeling and showing empathy for others.
10 You’re finding it difficult to concentrate and process basic information.
11 You see your grades or performance at work slipping.
12 You feel confused and forgetful, more than usual.

 

While a certain amount of stress is healthy and needed to perform effectively, the problem arises when stress reaches the point where it begins to affect your physical, psychological, social and intellectual wellbeing.  Based on the ratings you gave yourself on the indicators above, make a list of the potential causes of that stress. To deal with stress, we have to know the sources of it before we can take action.  Next week we’ll take a look at strategies to reduce stress.

Dianne is a certified coach who helps individuals thrive as they successfully manage the dynamics of incessant demands; and the author of a new book: If There Are No Limits… A guide to living with passion, purpose and possibilities. For more information, visit the book page on this website. 
Fear is powerful and has the ability to stop us dead in our tracks. Last week we looked at what fear is and how it manifests in our lives. Fear holds us back from pursuing our most important goals. And as long as we’re trying to move forward, unhealthy it will always hang around. When it calls, viagra we must summon all the courage we have to climb over it, push through it or overcome fear. These eight steps can help.

1. Acknowledge the fear you have and name it. Once you can put a name to it, its intensity dissipates.
2. Understand where the fear is coming from. Is it based on past experiences, fear of the unknown, or the opinions of others that are getting in the way?
3. Learn as much as you can about it which will give you the courage you need to move through the fear. The more you know about fear, the less power it has over you.
4. Focus on what you can control instead of what you can’t control. This will give you a real sense of empowerment.
5. Keep your focus on your ultimate goal, to help you move through the fear.
6. Build more courage by taking one small step through the fear. The first step is the hardest and once you’ve taken it, you will feel empowered to take more steps.
7. Remind yourself that failure is simply a result you’re not happy about. If you fail at first, try again.
8. If you continue to find it difficult to move beyond your fears, consider working with a coach or a psychologist. They can help you move forward.

Life’s too short and you have too many dreams and goals to pursue to allow fear to get in the way or to stop you from becoming all you can be.

 

Dianne is a certified coach who helps individuals thrive as they successfully manage the dynamics of incessant demands; and the author of a new book: If There Are No Limits… A guide to living with passion, purpose and possibilities. For more information, visit the book page on this website. 

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Dianne Gaudet is a certified Coach who is passionate about helping her clients manage the dynamics of continual life transitions as they reach new heights of personal and professional success. Helping Boomers create rich and inspired lifestyle plans for the retirement life they want is one of her greatest joys. Dianne is the author of a new book, If There Are No Limits... A guide to living with passion, purpose and possibilities. She is also a motivational speaker, teacher and world traveller.