Week 37 – How Do Joy And Contentment Show Up In Your Life?

We’ve all had those days when the mountain of things that need doing seems insurmountable.  We go to bed in the evening feeling exhausted and wondering how we keep getting ourselves into these situations of constant over-booking and over-planning.  Then the guilt hits.  We feel guilty that we’re not the perfect spouse; that we don’t spend enough quality time with our children, vcialis 40mg that we neglect friendships.  We lament that we don’t have time to do fun things any more.

More often than not, these situations occur because we jam our days with too many things and create unrealistic plans which make us feel as if we’re on an endless treadmill. There are ways to get off that treadmill, to regain balance and find more joy in life. To make sure that simplifying your life doesn’t become yet another thing to add to an already too long list, take small steps to make meaningful changes that will simplify your life.

  1. Start by getting a really cool day planner, one that reflects your personality.  If you really love it, you’ll be more inclined to use it.
  2. Get in the habit of using your day planner to track all your activities, appointments, to-do’s and everything else that goes on in your life that needs tracking. This will allow you to see all that is on your plate and help you make smart decisions about what gets done on any particular day.
  3. Practice saying no to small things that are not priority in your life.  If you can say no to at least one thing each day, you’ll quickly see a big change in how you feel.
  4. Make time for yourself first thing in the morning, even if it’s only for 10-15 minutes.  This will give you time to take a deep breath and start your day on the right foot.  You can review what’s in your day planner and if decide if there are things on that list that need to be moved or removed.
  5. In the evening, take a few minutes (10-15 minutes) to recognize all that you’ve accomplished that day.  Applaud yourself for all that got done and simply move the things that didn’t get done to another day.  You’ll soon find that you’ve create a new habit of focusing your day on the most important things that need to get done.
  6. Build one relaxing activity into your day, an activity you love and one that will let you unwind and decompress. Even 10-15 minutes will make a big difference.  It could be a walk which doubles as exercise, enjoying a cup of coffee, listening to your favourite music or any other activity that give you great pleasure.
  7. Make time for your family and make that time a non-negotiable appointment in your day planner.  The connection and support your get from your family will make the rest easier to tackle.  You can ask them for help and delegate some of the things that need doing so you can mark them off your list.

These small steps will help you regain control over your long to-do list. But you may also have to face the harsh reality that you can’t have it all, do it all and still keep smiling.  Simplifying your life does not mean giving up on your dreams and what’s important to you, but it will help you focus on what’s most important.

“Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose

– a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.“

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Dianne is a certified coach who helps individuals thrive as they successfully manage the dynamics of incessant demands; and the author of a new book: If There Are No Limits… A guide to living with passion, purpose and possibilities. For more information, visit the book page on this website. 
Like balance, treatment joy and contentment can be difficult to achieve in our over-booked and stressed lives. In the midst of our busy-ness, we find ourselves reminiscing about youth and how easy and carefree life was back then. We can easily spend too much energy trying to re-create those special moments, whether it’s through the unachievable expectations we set for the holidays, trips and weekend getaways; or the relentless pursuit of the fountain of youth.

Authentic joy and contentment cannot be manufactured from the outside, they must be cultivated from the inside.  Joy and contentment come from:

  • The struggles we face when we are striving to achieve our greatest passions. The most important things in life are rarely easy.
  • Our spirituality which gives meaning and guidance to all that we do, especially when we feel lost.
  • Our personal believes that help us sort through the complexities of life and our perspective about what’s right or wrong.
  • The courage we show in the face of adversity. When we overcome a challenge we build on our resilient spirit at the same time.
  • The patience we show when things aren’t moving as fast as we think they should.  Being willing to allow time and space to shape the answers we need, at that particular time, will help bring joy and contentment into our lives. 

Paradoxically, it is in the struggles of life that we find the greatest joy and contentment; when we have to dig deep and draw on our own inner strengths. It is when we focus on our own internal compass rather than using your energies to manufacture it externally that we find true joy and contentment.

Dianne is a certified coach who helps individuals thrive as they successfully manage the dynamics of incessant demands; and the author of a new book: If There Are No Limits… A guide to living with passion, purpose and possibilities. For more information, visit the book page on this website. 

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Dianne Gaudet is a certified Coach who is passionate about helping her clients manage the dynamics of continual life transitions as they reach new heights of personal and professional success. Helping Boomers create rich and inspired lifestyle plans for the retirement life they want is one of her greatest joys. Dianne is the author of a new book, If There Are No Limits... A guide to living with passion, purpose and possibilities. She is also a motivational speaker, teacher and world traveller.