Category : For Less Stress In Your Life

Week # 10 – Finding Precious Time

The concept of time is somewhat of a double-edged sword. On one hand, time is simply a unit of measure. There are twenty-four hours in a day, no more, no less. And when we look at time in terms of meaningful moments it’s easy to focus on what’s most important and ensure that we live without regret. We all realize we only have a finite amount of time to achieve all that we dream about, yet we rarely take a moment to reflect on how to make the most use of this precious time. This week, take a few moments of reflection and ask yourself what you really want to accomplish that’s near and dear to your heart. Then commit to finding 1-2 hours each day to work on your dreams.

  1. Based on my age today, what can I accomplish if I spend 1-2 hours each day to work on what really matters?
  2. How can find 1-2 hours each day to work on dreams yet unfulfilled?

Once you start, you’ll find it’s amazingly easy to find the few hours every day.  Make a “Stop Doing…” list to make more time to focus on the right priorities. Then create a “Start Doing…” list that will inspire you to take action.  With a focused list you can look forward to doing the work you most need to do.  You may even decide that you want to spend more time each day working on what really matters.  That’s when you’ll know that you are focused on the right things.

Week # 9 – Creating Your Very Own Bucket List

The exercises you’ve done until now have likely highlighted a few areas of your life that need attention. These areas can form part of the goals you add to your bucket list. This week I invite you to think about what you really want in different aspects of your life. Forget what you need. As Author Thomas Moore says: “Admit to what you desire and what you fear… It’s all right to have grand and eccentric longings. It’s all right to be afraid. Only by embracing these two emotional pillars will you glimpse the nature of your soul, which is the ground of your existence.” Suspend the notion that wanting is being greedy and don’t allow your censoring inner voice tell you it’s impossible. Think about your goals and dreams from a perspective of no limits and allow yourself to create an inspiring bucket list.  Ask yourself what you want that gives meaning to your life in each of these aspects and jot down a few notes as to why you want it.

  1. Life Partner
  2. Family, Friends and Community
  3. Health and Leisure
  4. Vocation
  5. Financials and Home
  6. Spirituality and Sense of Self

I’m sure you have a very good list to work with.  In the coming weeks we’ll work on identifying the priorities for your list of goals and begin to set achievable and sustainable goals to achieve the success you want.

Week # 8 – A Vision of What’s Possible

Congratulations on all the hard work you’ve done so far. I’m honoured that you’ve stayed with me until now and I hope that the exercises you did over the last few weeks have helped you to understand yourself a bit better.  This week I’m going to ask you to really stretch your imagination and think about what’s next in your life.  And I want you think about it from a perspective of: “In my wildest dreams…” Answer the questions below with what comes to mind and without any limitations or censoring.

  1. If time was infinite…
  2. If money was plentiful…
  3. My burning desire is…
  4. I want to…

Wasn’t this fun?  It is so rare that we give ourselves permission to think completely out of the box. We’re often too busy with multiple priorities that demand our attention. It is only by setting time aside to allow ourselves to dream, without limits, that we can get at the core of what our soul wants us to know. This exercise is the beginning of what’s possible for the next part of your life’s journey.

Yeah Baby! I’m Living The Dream!

If we’re all “living the dream”, why are we so miserable? We feel more disconnected from our dream life today than we ever did. You can hear it everywhere. “I feel stuck and my life is going nowhere.” “I hate my job.” “I’m overworked and stressed out.” “I’m bored.” “I’m frustrated, angry and scared.” “I’m depressed.” “I wish I could just run away from it all.” “I need to get a life.”

Living the dream! Yeah right! We’re too darn busy working, raising families and making ends meet to have time to think about anything else, much less chasing our dreams. If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting different results then it makes sense to change what you’re doing. Hope will only take us so far. But still, we hope that we can get away from the everyday grind for a few moments to focus on the pursuit of unfulfilled dreams. Hope is what gets us out of bed in the morning.

To make meaningful changes in your life, the first step is to make a “stop doing” list. Then ask yourself what’s most important in your life right now. And finally, ask yourself how you achieve the one goal or dream that’s most important to you now. It’s much easier to take small steps that fit your already busy schedule. You’ll also have more energy as you build momentum and start seeing the progress you’re making.

What do I want?
1. What have I accomplished so far? You’ll amaze yourself with all you’ve done.
2. What unfinished business do I still have?
3. What do I really want out of my life and why it is important?
4. What dreams can I realistically pursue, given the current priorities in my life?

How can I make it happen?
5. How can I break these dreams down into manageable goals?
6. How can I break these goals into even smaller chunks so I don’t get overwhelmed?
7. What can I do to stay focused on my goals? Ex: Give up an hour of TV? Get up earlier?
8. Who can I ask for help as I work towards my goals?
9. What can I do on a daily, weekly and monthly basis to stay focused?
10. What can I do to recognize the progress I’m making and celebrate my accomplishments?

Too often we give up on our dreams because life gets in the way or doesn’t unfold as planned. Priorities change and stuff happens. The truth is that life is rarely lived in a linear fashion; it is usually lived in a spiral, with many twists and turns. But it is precisely through these twists and turns that we force ourselves to make a choice to either keep pursuing our dreams or give up. Living the dream is about having the courage to keep moving and seeing possibilities in the obstacles we face.

When we make the decision to pursue the dreams that are important, we find a renewed sense of energy. It no longer feels like we have added more on our to-do list. Rather, it recharges the old batteries and breathes new energy into our life. Sometimes we have to dig deep and find the courage to bring about the change that is needed, but we owe it to ourselves and to our loved one to create the life of our dreams.